Painting - the very word sends fear into most homeowners and even their contractors.
What is is about painting that people hate so?
I have tried to answer this question over the last few days of painting the interior walls of our new house. Every one of the sub-contractors working in our house at the same time say the same thing - They hate the job of painting!
Now don't get me wrong it is certainly not the most easy job or one that is without obstacles BUT when you look at it differently it does have a zen-like quality. Painting is about change. Maybe that is why people hate to think about it. In order to paint a room you have to make some changes in the room - you need to move/rearrange furniture, you need to pick the color, possibly you need to make adjustments to the furnishings in the room to accomodate the new color chosen. But when it comes right down to it, you have to change.
When you are moving into a new home, you want to make that home you. You want to personalize it and one of the easiest ways to do that is to change the colors on the walls. You try not to think of the work involved but rather about the desired end result. I did that in our existing "little" house that we have lived in for the past 7 years while dreaming of our new house. It is the same way with setting goals and working on making them happen - we set our sites on the desired end result. So it is with painting.
We go into the paint store with a dream, a dream of making our living space our own. When you are building a brand new house it is sometimes one of the last things you think about but it is definitely a decision that makes a profound effect on your living space. The colors that we chose are a result of how we want to feel in certain areas of our home. Bright, bold, soft, mellow. In an existing home it is the desire to change how you feel about a room or to make it your own.
But as with any change, it comes with a price. The price is monetary, of course, but it is also a committment to the change. And the work involved in making that change. Most contractors hate painting because of the work. The ladders, the scaffolding, the physical labor of the task, the brush cleaning, the roller changing, the paint pouring, the trim work. It really is a hard job and one that is the most noticed by the home owner if there is a screw-up!
But, for me. the joy of seeing that wall become the color that you picked is worth the price! Especially in a new house, the home of your dreams, your new forever home. Painting to me is a job of instant gratification. Seeing that new color go on the wall is a sense of accomplishment. For me these last few days it has been the sense of another step in a goal achieved. One more step to living in my new house.
Don't look at any job you must accomplish on the path to a goal as a job or a chore but rather another step on the path you have chosen. Because remmber, if you don't take the next step you will never reach that end result - the achievement of the goal realized.
Unless, of course, you are a painter!
I have received my "Leonie" workbooks in the last week or so and I am getting ready to plan my 2016 year for my Business and my Life and the following post came up this morning about planning. Thought I would share what someone on our group shared:
Great quote I just saw shared about planning:
'Use Plans to Focus Yourself, Not Test Yourself
Planning out your week can help you navigate life gracefully — but overplanning your day-to-day tasks can make you neurotic and stressed. The best way to reap the benefits of daily and weekly planning is to take a more relaxed approach, and to understand the role spontaneity should play in your plans. Here’s how:
Be intentional but flexible. Decide in advance where you want to end up, but accept that your route may change along the way.
Redefine a 100% score. For most people, a great day is when they accomplish 60–70% of their goals. Think about a “perfect” day as one where you made the best choices possible, not one where you finished everything.
Don’t think of your plans as a test. If your self-worth depends on how accurately you implement your plans, you’re on shaky ground. Life is meant to be lived, not just “done.”
Adapted from “How to Stop Overplanning (Even If You’re a Perfectionist),” by Elizabeth Grace Saunders
Over the years I have been a planner in my head rather than on paper, which has worked for me until now. I am at a stage in my life where I am ready for a change. And I'm not talking about the career changes I have made in the past but rather about a life change. I'm ready to be "on the mountain" putzing around in my kitchen, helping others with their life challenges, doing a few massages each week, teaching a class or two each month and selling my "stuff" via Etsy or Paypal or my new website. I think that I am finally ready to "settle down" so to speak. Been mentally planning this for some time but now it is time to get it down on paper and make it happen. Without stressing over the fact that there are many different directions I want to go in!
I want to be active without spending a lot of time away from my new house. Obviously I will let you know how it goes on this blog!
Failure is simply the opportunity to being again, this time more intelligently. Henry Ford
Napoleon Hill begins his chapter for this lesson with that quote from Henry Ford. Now most people know Henry Ford as the man who created Ford Motor Company and the Model T but most people don't know that his first two companies failed. If he had admitted defeat we would not even know his name today. Failure is just temporary defeat. Battles may be lost but the war still won.
I am going to fill this post with many people who we know from history because of their actions and current times because of their successes. I will also use some quotes about failure or defeat. Mr. Hill spends the majority of this chapter talking about his own setbacks which even though they talk about defeats that he suffered, many of them have to do with the times he was living in. War, stock market crashes etc. It is his perseverence through these defeats that make his name recognizable today.
There is no failure except in no longer trying. Elbert Hubbard
I include this quote for two reasons. Number 1 it is one of the original quotes in the book and used by Napoleon Hill and Number 2 the quote "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade", is a paraphasing of a statement he made in an obituary that he wrote. That quote is "He picked up the lemons that Fate had sent him and started a lemonade-stand". I have often used this quote and I think it is very appropriate to a lesson on Failure. A temporary defeat when you are working toward your Definite purpose is just that, temporary. Use is as a lesson to be learned, as Ford said and then retry with the intelligence gained.
Defeat allows you to question. "Every defeat, every reverse, usually teaches us a valuable lesson that could be learned in no other way." This from Napoleon Hill. When you analyze and study every setback you have you should take knowledge away from it. Defeat should never be accepted as failure. Take Thomas Edison.
I haven't failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. Thomas Edison
Edison was a very prolific inventor who holds over 1000 patents. When he was in school his teacher told him he was too stupid to learn anything! Over 9000 experiments led to the lightbulb.
And talk about failure, Milton Hershey failed many times in his attempts to make money before opening his Lancaster Caramel Company. It was from this success that he was able to build the Hershey Chocolate Company that we know today!
Everyone knows the name of the master of horror, Stephen King. Did you know that his first book, Carrie, was rejected 30 times? He threw it in the trash and the only reason we know of it today is because his wife saved it and made him try again. He now has 350 million copies of his books worldwide.
If you've never failed, you've never tried anything new. I cannot find the definitive author of that line but it is all over the internet and is especially appropriate for this lesson. You have to get out there and try to get to make your goals happen and if you fail at first then try something else did you finally succeed.
Today you are you! That is truer than true! There is no one alive who is you-er than you! Dr. Seuss
Only you can make your own dreams come true. And I think Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best.
There is no defeat except from within. There is really no barrier save your own inherent weakness of purpose. Ralph Waldo Emerson
Napoleon Hill says to define your purpose, set your goals and then with determination and concentration to go after what you want. Fear of failure is not an option. Will there be setbacks, probably. Will you get past them, absolutely. What's the old quote? What doesn't kill you, makes you strong. You will have setbacks, the great ones almost always do. Anyone know the name Steve Jobs? At 30-years-old he was unceremoniously removed from the company he started, Apple, after a power struggle with the board of directors. He later acquired the computer graphics division of Lucasfilm, which allowed him to regain the funds needed to regain control of Apple. And we all know what that led to.
And my favorite is Einstein. His parents thought he was mentally retarded when he was young. His grades in school were so poor that a teacher asked him to quit, saying, “Einstein, you will never amount to anything!” And he didn’t speak until he turned 4 and didn’t read until he was 7. We however know him as possibly the most important scientist of the 20th century!
And of course most everyone knows the story of that author lady and the Wizard World that she created after being nearly penniless, divorced, depressed and raising a child on her own.
We all have the ability to get past our defeats and keep moving toward that definite purpose with enthusiasm, self-confidense, imagination and concentration.
According to Mr. Hill, tolerance is a very important lesson.
The way you treat people is the way you see them, and the way you treat them is what they become. - Johann von Goethe
I actually typed in this blog post back in June but the entire post was "eaten" by my computer and I became very frustrated as this was at the time of the shootings by a white person at a black church and my post was all about the tolerance needed. As so let me go back and try again.
According to Hill, intolerance is a form of ignorance and narrow-mindednesss, Intolerance is taught if not directly then indirectly by what we see others around us do. As we are growing up and in our school-age years we are formed by what those around us believe and do. AND most often we accept this without any thought of if it is right or wrong.
Tolerance, then also must be learned. We must learn to understand how others think and why they do the things they do. Perhaps, they are also repeating what was taught to them just as we are when we being to judge them. In order to preach tolerance though we need to practice it ourselves.
In the physical text of The Law of Success Mr Hill spends a lot of discussion in this Lesson on how to abolish war. That was a big part of his life since the original publication date was 1925. I too believe in the abolition of war but I think we need to go back to the individual level and practice tolerance within our homes, our families and our neighborhoods starting at the root of the problem to generate the thoughts needed throughout the world to abolish those things that tend to lead to war. Is not war created through the intolerance of some to the thoughts and opinions of others?
We need to be educated and educate on the importance of tolerance in all areas of life. I think that the main lesson to be learned here is about open-mindedness and forbearance in relation to how we view and interact with others.
Concentration - the act of focusing the mind upon a given desire until ways and means for its realization have been worked out and successfully put into operation. - Napoleon Hill
Using Auto Suggestion and the Law of Habit spoken of earlier in his book, Mr. Hill says that concentration on your Definite Purpose can make it happen. Using repetition, thinking the same thoughts over and over again will cause you to come up with ways to make it possible.
Your thoughts become your words,
Words become actions
Actions become habits
Habits become character
Character becomes Destiny
Your environment creates your habits, which become a permanent part of your subconscious where it becomes your personality and influences your actions, prejudices, biases and opinions. This is environment that you live or work in. All those things that influence you through sight, hearing, smell, taste or feelings/emotions are part of your environment.
You need to master your habits rather than becoming a slave to them. Good habits are just as easy to create as bad habits. Just keep doing them over and over again. A habit is a "mental path" according to Hill. It is the way you keep doing something over and over again based on the way you think about it. The way to change them is to come up with new thought patterns.
Men's natures are alike, it is their habits that carry them far apart. - Confucius
The Rules of Procedure to form the habits you desire are laid out by Hill.
First - beginning a new habit - put force and enthusiasm into your expression. Feel what you think. Make the path as clear and deep as you can at the beginning so it can be easily seen going forward. In other words put the emotions that you want to experience from this new habit into the habit from the very beginning.
Second - Keep your attention firmly concentrated on building your new path and away from the old paths. Forget the old, concern yourself only with the new ones you are building. Again, put an emotion with the new habit. How will it feel when this is how you do this all the time?
Fourth - Resist the old paths - It will make you stronger to be persistent.
Fifth - Make sure to map out the right path to your definite purpose and go ahead without fear or doubt. Select your goals and make your path lead straight to it.
Through habit, an act repeatedly performed in the same manner has a tendency to become permanent, and eventually we come to perform the act automatically or unconsciously.
Auto suggestion is the tool to create this new habit.
Concentration is the hand that holds the tool.
Habit is the map or blueprint.
Your desired GOAL must be held in your conscious mind faithfully and persistently until it becomes a permanent habit.
Your environment must support this goal. Other parts of your environment include: books, read, associates, community, work you do, country/nation you live in, clothes you wear, songs you sing or listen to, religion, education prior to age 14. Environment is the direct relationship with who we become. If your environment is not providing you with what you want, CHANGE IT! Create in your mind an exact, clear, well developed picture of the environment needed to create your Definite Purpose and then concentrate your mind on this picture until you turn it into reality. Remember that you can only succeed if you define your Definite Purpose and then your environment must include those people who are in harmony with that Definite Purpose.
Every word spoken within your hearing, every sight that reaches your eyes, and every sense impression that you receive through any of the 5 senses influences your thought as surely as the sun rises in the east and sets in the west. Thus your environment must be controlled.
And Mr. Hill goes into great detail about keeping every part of your environment concentrated on your Definite Purpose. Your clothes should be appropriate to the end result. Your mental attitude needs to be appropriate to your desired outcome. And he says that the magic key to this success is Concentration. It means the ability to control your attention and focus it on a given problem until you have solved it!
Think the way you wish to think. Control your thoughts and direct them to a definite end. Organize your knowledge into a plan of action that is sound and workable to reach your desired goal.
Concentrate on your Definite Purpose.
Successful concentration depends on Ambition and Desire.
Nothing was ever created that was not first created in the imagination through desire and then transformed into reality through concentration! WHEW!
As I often tell my students, You need to see it, feel it, taste it, smell it to make it happen. Look ahead 1, 3, 5 years even 10 and see yourself as _________________. See the outcome, use your imagination. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, "You will see it when you believe it". And 2 or more people with the same Definite Purpose can do anything!
Thought is organized energy and concentrating on a single thought gives it even more energy.
Our environment is an extension of our mind. When we change our mind, our life changes. - Dr. Joe Dispenze
So Concentrate on this for a while!
What is it that you are filling yourself up with today? Because whatever you are putting in is what you are in turn putting out!
Wake up on the wrong side of the bed? Are you carrying that thru to the rest of your day? Feeling anxious about what you have to do today? Bored on the job?
Feeling compassion for all people today when reading about floods, famine or distress? How about feeling love for everyone around you? Or having hope for the future and all the great things that it will bring?
Whatever you are filling your cup with is what you will then expect in life and what you will get. So fill up your cup with Compassion, Love, Hope, Positivity, Prosperity and Kindness. Isn't that what you would really rather be having?
It has recently occurred to me that all of the great scholars, lecturers and sages were saying the exact same thing. So it is nothing new or even revolutionary what the newest New Age thinkers are saying because they are saying the exactly what has been said before. It just needs to be said in different ways so that everyone can get it.
It is that what you think you become. If you think you can you can, if you think you can't, you're right too. Whatever you put out is what you will get back. Nothing new. It's all the same and it applies to whatever you put your mind to. It doesn't matter what business you are in - whatever you put out will come back to you.
Napoleon Hill Made it 15 lessons, Jack Canfield made it into Chicken Soup, Steven Covey gave us 7 Habits, Depak Chopra gave us 20 Spiritual Laws and Rhonda Byrne told us The Secret. Wayne Dyer told us to Believe it Before We can See It, while Mike Dooley gives us Infinite Possibilities and Napoleon Hill told us to Think and Grow Rich through the Laws of Success.
It all comes back to the same thing. Heck even the Bible told us about the Golden Rule when Jesus told us to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Confucius said do not do to other people what you do not want them to do to you. It's the Golden f****** rule! Do unto others as you would have them do to you in the same exact circumstance.
What does this mean? It means you need to think before you do anything. There is that word - THINK. You can know everything about anatomy. You can know everything about physiology. You can know everything about psychology. It all comes down to what you think. And I don't think anyone can really tell us how the mind works. All the neural pathways are indeed in everyone but I believe that our environment, our beliefs, our emotions and everything else about our particular life has an effect on our own personal "wiring".
And why do you think what you think? Because of the way you were raised, the things that were put into your head (the learned things) as you were growing up. We come out of the womb with the universal truths and universal energy and universal knowledge. But then, based on the life and family and government and religion we were born into some of the truths left us. The belief systems that were taught to us by those people and institutions bring us to where we are today. And what we think we become (Buddha). In order to change what you think you need to change some of those beliefs. And the way to do that can be extraordinarily difficult! The "old habits die hard" scenario.
Okay, so it's been a while since I talked about Infinite Possibilities. Have I given up on IP and Thoughts becoming Things? Absolutely not! The things have just started happening that have been in my thoughts. But more about that in another post.
If you got through Lesson 2 about beliefs then you are really ready for this lesson. But to recap, it is your "learned" beliefs that can sometimes get in the way of where you want to be. If you really took a look at those things I mentioned - Life, Money, Love, Success - were the beliefs you have about them yours through experience or did someone tell you that is what they were like? Remember that nothing else affects your thoughts more than your beliefs about certain things. If you think life is hard, then it becomes hard because you have convinced yourself, through your belief system, that it is hard.
So the first thing you have to change are your beliefs for it is these beliefs that influence our thoughts and then our action (or lack of action). SO in order to change our thoughts we need to change our beliefs and the way to do that is to give up on negative thoughts. AND guess what we DO get to chose what we think and believe in order to build your life based on what you want. So by starting to think and speak what you want to believe you being to create new beliefs about how your life can be.
As I have stated before, thoughts build ideas, ideas stir emotions, emotions create action, actions are the physical manifestation of the original thought. Tada! Thoughts become things!
So we are past the thoughts build ideas and now are ready for the emotions that come with those thoughts.
A Man is but the product of his thought. What he thinks, he becomes. - Mahatma GandhiNapoleon Hill says that this lesson is the most import, most interesting and most difficult lesson so far. This is the gist of the entire course and therefore the most interesting. It is the most difficult because it takes you beyond what you think you know. It is the keystone so to speak of the course.
Many of us have heard of the book or seen the movie The Secret. We try to understand that thoughts become things. But do we really?
Think of the airplane, automobile, computers and the internet. All these things began as the thoughts of the people who created the first ones!
Many of our forefathers (and mothers) created the success that was independence by their thoughts of something greater than being ruled by England.
Hill says that to think accurately you must separate facts from just information. There is a lot of information out there but how much of it is true fact. And then the facts need to be separated into two classes - the important or relevant and the unimportant or irrelevant. The facts that are important are the ones that you need, the ones that help you to grow, improve or advance. The facts that are irrelevant may still be actual fact but fall into the trivial, such as gossip, some newspaper articles and TV programs as well as the many emails and facebook comments that come across your computer screen.
The Law of Evidence, according to Hill, is the ability to distinguish between facts and heresay information. "The accurate thinker deals with facts, regardless of how they affect his own interests...". In other words, don't play with the facts in order to achieve your own goals without regard to others. Sometimes there will be setbacks when dealing honestly with your fellow man but the law of averages will always work to your advantage. Always be sure of your facts. The accurate thinker does not belittle others with slander or rumors.
If you find the person you know who appears to accomplish more with less effort you will have found someone who is able to arrange the facts so that he brings to his aid the Law of Increasing Returns. Important and relevant facts are the ones that work toward your Definite Purpose. The facts you search for are determined by what you want to accomplish. And the important ones will help you achieve that Goal. All others are of minor importance, relative to you Goal so don't spend time organizing these.
But creative thought is the evolution of the thinking man. Creative thought allows you to take the facts and use them creatively to achieve your Goals. This is sometimes referred to as "thinking outside the box".
This is an important Lesson...so more coming.
Paula J. Kaprocki, LMT, BS, CPC
Life Coach, Massage Therapist, Infinite Possibilities Trainer, Author