One more bridge to cross is what my mother said as we were coming down the west coast of Florida on our annual mother-daughter Florida winter trip in March. Many rivers and streams flow into the Gulf of Mexico so there were a lot of bridges! This got me thinking. How many bridges have we already crossed in life to get to where we are today? There always seems to be one more bridge to cross to get to our destination. Will we never get there?
Where or what is it we are trying to get to? Are we always looking for the next bridge? And what is that bridge keeping us from? Will we even know when we've crossed the last bridge?
Lots of stuff came to mind when she made that statement, especially since I am in the midst of some big things coming into my life. The house that we have been planning for the last 20 years is finally into the final stages of fruition and we keep crossing tiny bridges to get to the end of that road.
In life we cross many "bridges"; experiences that get us to the next phase of life. But how often do we put up emotional "bridges" that keep us from getting to the next phase or the level? Too often the things that are keeping us back are self made. We sometimes set ourselves up to fail or be held back by building an imaginary bridge that we think we need to get over to move on. I have often told clients and students that if you can't get home the way you normally go because of an accident or impasse on the road, wouldn't you find another way? A detour? That is what happens in our thinking and the end result of a goal that we have set. If the first method doesn't work then it is time to find another way. Another route to get over the bridge.
The other way of thinking about bridges is that they are way to get over something that you wouldn't normally be able to get across or that would be hazardous or impossible to get across without the bridge. So the positive side of a bridge is that it is there to help you overcome obstacles. So no matter how many bridges you have to cross, they are there to get you safely around or over the obstacle.
As with any of our issues in life, there is always another way of looking at them. It is true that sometimes bad things do happen; things that we have no control over. That doesn't mean that we need to let the bad thing keep us from staying on course. There is always the next bridge to cross. The bridge that gets us over the defeat or inconvenience.
Think of the bridge not as one more to cross but as a shorter path to get to where you want to go. A way to avoid challenges and move on to the next step.
So I've made this commitment to a 30 Day Blogging Challenge, but today is just one of those days! I have no desire to write about any of the things that I could possibly tell you about. In fact the only reason that I am typing this now is because of the challenge. So let me tell you why I have no desire to write anything today.
1. It was raining today and I was stuck in the house.
2. I was not at my house.
3. I had to look for a new car. I love my current car and do not want to look for a new car.
4. The sun finally came out after I got home.
5. It was still too cold and damp to work in my gardens.
6. The computer that I log into for my bookkeeping job froze on me and it is 1000 miles away from me and the office guys who could look at it are 3000 miles away on another job!
7. The was no dry wood to make my evening fire - see #1.
8. My house is still not completely done and now there is a mess in the only bathroom that has my nice soaking tub.
9. I am still up and I have 3 clients in the morning between 9-12.
10. After driving home and then driving from car dealers I was pooped.
BUT, I have decided there are still things to be grateful for.
1. The sun did come out eventually.
2. Got stuff done where I was even though it wasn't my house.
3. My husband did get the tile done in the new house.
4. I have a house!
5. We had food on the table for supper.
6. My husband did find enough dry wood for my evening fire in the new fireplace in the new house.
7. I have a car.
8. I have clients.
9. I have a career that keeps me busy, in fact several!
10. I love my family.
So now you know what to Blog when you don't feel like blogging.
Life is very interesting when you come to think about it!
I promise better tomorrow.
Back in February I did this blog post on my other website (www.thebody-mechanics.com) about receiving my planning workbooks from Leonie Dawson. Let me proceed to tell you how that has been going for me.
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I have received my "Leonie" workbooks in the last week or so and I am getting ready to plan my 2016 year for my Business and my Life and the following post came up this morning about planning. Thought I would share what someone on our group shared:
Great quote I just saw shared about planning:
'Use Plans to Focus Yourself, Not Test Yourself
Planning out your week can help you navigate life gracefully — but overplanning your day-to-day tasks can make you neurotic and stressed. The best way to reap the benefits of daily and weekly planning is to take a more relaxed approach, and to understand the role spontaneity should play in your plans. Here’s how:
Be intentional but flexible. Decide in advance where you want to end up, but accept that your route may change along the way.
Redefine a 100% score. For most people, a great day is when they accomplish 60–70% of their goals. Think about a “perfect” day as one where you made the best choices possible, not one where you finished everything.
Don’t think of your plans as a test. If your self-worth depends on how accurately you implement your plans, you’re on shaky ground. Life is meant to be lived, not just “done.”
Adapted from “How to Stop Overplanning (Even If You’re a Perfectionist),” by Elizabeth Grace Saunders
Over the years I have been a planner in my head rather than on paper, which has worked for me until now. I am at a stage in my life where I am ready for a change. And I'm not talking about the career changes I have made in the past but rather about a life change. I'm ready to be "on the mountain" putzing around in my kitchen, helping others with their life challenges, doing a few massages each week, teaching a class or two each month and selling my "stuff" via Etsy or Paypal or my new website. I think that I am finally ready to "settle down" so to speak. Been mentally planning this for some time but now it is time to get it down on paper and make it happen. Without stressing over the fact that there are many different directions I want to go in!
I want to be active without spending a lot of time away from my new house. Obviously I will let you know how it goes on this blog!
SO a few months later I indeed have filled in some of my workbooks and am currently working through a Blog Challenge which today includes ways to plan and create a blog editorial calendar. Well, planning is absolutely not my forte even though I talk about planning and setting goals in many of the classes that I teach. But with this blog post, I am committed to doing better.
Planning can sometimes go wrong or go bad or go by the wayside. Don't let it happen to you. I now have extra tables, an excel worksheet and someone to keep me accountable. Things are starting to happen in my life that have been "planned" and are many years in the making. Write down the plan and work the plan and the plan will work for you. Even though it make take more time than you originally "planned"! It is my humble opinion that every plan that you make as a thought in your head will, through the efforts of your subconscious mind, come to pass. Keep with the system and keep planning!
It has recently occurred to me that all of the great scholars, lecturers and sages were saying the exact same thing. So it is nothing new or even revolutionary what the newest New Age thinkers are saying because they are saying the exact same thing. It just needs to be said in different ways so that everyone can get it. In other words, I'm saying The Law of Attraction is not new!
It is that what you think you become. If you think you can you can, if you think you can't, you're right too. Whatever you put out is what you will get back. Nothing new. It's all the same and it applies to whatever you put your mind to. It doesn't matter what business you are in - whatever you put out will come back to you.
Napoleon Hill Made it 15 lessons, Jack Canfield made it into Chicken Soup, Steven Covey gave us 7 Habits, Depak Chopra gave us 20 Spiritual Laws and Rhonda Byrne told us The Secret. Wayne Dyer told us to Believe it Before We can See It, while Mike Dooley gives us Infinite Possibilities and Napoleon Hill told us to Think and Grow Rich through the Laws of Success.
It all comes back to the same thing. Heck even the Bible told us about the Golden Rule when Jesus told us to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Confucius said do not do to other people what you do not want them to do to you. It's the Golden f****** rule! Do unto others as you would have them do to you in the same exact circumstance. So put out to the Universe what you would like to get back
What does this mean? It means you need to think before you do anything. There is the word - THINK. You can know everything about anatomy. You can know everything about physiology. You can know everything about psychology. It all comes down to what you think. And I don't think anyone can really tell us how the mind works. REALLY!
Just like the circuits in a computer, the human mind is programmed based on what it's programmers have told it what to do. And who are it's programmers, well we are a part of the program but we are not the only ones that program our brain. Parents, teachers, siblings, friends, books we've read, the news we watch - all of these program a part of our brain based on what we accept as truth.
So why do you think what you think? Because of the way you were raised, the things that were put into your head as you were growing up. We come out of the womb with the universal truths and universal energy and universal knowledge. But then, based on the life and family and government and religion we were born into some of the truths left us. The belief systems that were taught to us by those people and institutions bring us to where we are today. And what we think we become (Buddha). In order to change what you think you need to change some of those beliefs.
And this is where the Law of Attraction comes in because what we believe as truth is the way we will think and thus what we will attract to us. Where this seems to not work is when what we really want does not seem to be attracted to us. So, does the Law of Attraction not work? Is it really just a made up concept of New Age thinkers? Have others really not been saying the same thing all along. Well yes and no. The Law of Attraction has always been around but New Age "scholar" have just brought it out more into the mainstream and in their own way teachers for centuries have been saying the same thing. And yes sometimes it doesn't work because we sabotage it. More about that tomorrow!
Paula J. Kaprocki, LMT, BS, CPC
Life Coach, Massage Therapist, Infinite Possibilities Trainer, Author