Last Sunday in church we had an excellent sermon by a former ELCA Bishop of the church. He asked a number of questions in regard to how you fit into the church that I felt could be modified to how you look at your life and how you fit in. So here goes.
What are your expectations about your life?
In other words what was it that you had expected out of life? Why did you have those expectations? What was it that made you believe that you would get that out of life? Did something happen in your youth that gave you those expectations? What were you taught about life as a youth? The beliefs that we have as adults are all formed as we are growing and regardless of what they are they can be changed! Right now. Create your own beliefs and your expectations of life will change!
What is your THIS?
In other words what is it that you declare openly about yourself? Who do you say that you are? Is it a positive or negative connotation? What you tell people about yourself, your life and your surroundings is exactly what you will get! You create your own life and if it is good or bad is up to you. Speak what you want out of life and you can change your life!
Where are you being lead?
In other words what is it that is leading you in your life? Are you following someone else's path or are you following your own path? The path you follow is your decision and once again you have the power to change it! One of my favorite poems is by Robert Frost,
Following Self-Confidence comes Initiative and Leadership. If you have the self confidence that was talked about in the last lesson then you can become an efficient leader by taking the initiative needed.
Leadership is required for the attainment of your success and initiative is the foundation on which it is built. Initiative is what makes you do what needs to be done without being told to do it. It is your self confidence which will allow you to do this.
Taking the initiative sometimes means doing things that others may not deem necessary or see the value of, but after you have chosen a definitive purpose it then becomes your duty to transform your purpose into reality. You will need to form the habit of taking some sort of definite action each day to carry yourself ever closer to attainment of that goal/definitive purpose.
This will take initiative. It also means that you need to eliminate procrastination! Procrastination is a deadly enemy to anyone who wants to become a leader in any undertaking. Procrastination is a deadly habit.
The way to initiate this lesson is to do one definite thing each day, something that needs to be done without anyone telling you to do it. Next you need to look for something that you can do each day that you are not in the habit of doing. This has to be something that will be of value to others but for which you do not expect to receive any monetary payment. In other words do something for others. The last step here is to let someone else know of this lesson - tell at least one other person each day of the value of practicing the habit of doing something that should be done with being told to do it. And wouldn't the world be a better place if we all practiced this last step. Do something that needs to be done without being told to do it!
The habit of initiative will become part of us as we develop these habits just as the muscles in our bodies become stronger as they are used. And research tells us that anything that we consistently do daily for a period of 30 days becomes a part of our normal routine. The place to start these habits of initiative are in the small, common place things connected with your daily work. So go about your work every day, no matter what it is, as if you were doing it solely for the purpose of developing the habit of initiative. You may be amazed at how quickly, by developing the habit of initiative, you begin to attract the attention of those who will begin to place greater value on you and your services as a result.
Remember that you only limitation is the one that you set up in your own mind.
Initiative opens the door to opportunity.
1. Stop tolerating.
When you stop putting up with stuff, you will have more energy.
2. Get complete.
When you complete unfinished business and fully communicate, you will experience peace.
3. Simplify everything
When you simplify your life, you will have much more space and experience balance.
4. Strengthen your foundation
When your needs are met and your personal foundation is solid, confidence replaces fear.
5. Orient yourself around what matters
When your life is oriented around what is most important to you, you will have clarity about what’s next.
6. Experiment and improve, continuously
When you build on what you have, you will become more successful.
7. Improve your strengths
When you build on what you have, you will become more successful
When you build a reserve in every area, you can leverage more opportunities more quickly.
9. Integrate your life
When you make sure your life’s components fit together well, you will experience effortlessness.
10. Polish everything.
When you buff up every aspect of your life, you will feel even more proud.
Mike Dooley says that "luck" is what happens when true understanding is followed by action. It was a serendipitous moment for me when I walked into a Books a Million bookstore in Sanford, Florida about 15 years ago and Mike Dooley was there promoting his book Totally Unique Thoughts. The synchronicity happened when a few years later, in Hawaii, I purchased a keychain that had a saying from the very same book. "Life's an illusion just waiting for you, to believe in your dreams so that they can come true!
Your dreams can come true, all you have to do is start with a vision and then take steps on the road to that vision, or goal, or definite purpose as defined by Napoleon Hill. Dr. Wayne Dyer says "You'll see it when you believe it", not the standard "I'll believe it when I see it". All you have to do is start!
So what is the start, how do you begin.
In the Infinite Possibilities coursework you begin by doing a little self analysis. What are the things that you have been told about certain aspects of your life? What do you think that you know about life, God, people, success or why you are even here? Take a minute and think about that. What are some of the "sayings" that you associated with life? Life is hard. Life is unfair. In order to get anywhere in life you have to work hard.
What about Success? In order to succeed you have to work hard at it. To be a success you have to give up things.
What about people in general? People are crazy. Be careful of strangers. Always watch your back.
What about God? God is All Powerful, the creator, omnipotent, judgemental.
All of these "things" that you "know" about these aspects of life are based on what you have been taught through thoughts or teachings from other people. They have become your belief system. And sometimes, in fact most times, they are from the experiences of other people, not from your own life experiences. Where do you think many prejudices come from. We are not born with those prejudices but rather are taught to us by parents, elders and the prejudices of others. AND they continue because that is what we think will be the outcome of a situation.
In the Infinite Possibilities coursework you are taught that the real truths of life include:
2. Dream, imagine and visualize.
3. Take daily action moving in the direction of our dreams and goals.
Doesn't that sound a lot more pleasant than what you may have been lead to believe? Haven't you seen some of this in your own life? When you ask yourself the hard questions about life and really accept the reality that what we have built is of our own making and then understand that we also have the power to change that reality, then we understand that blindly accepting another person's answers to our questions is not the real truth about life.
If you are beginning to think that what I have suggested here just might be the way to approach your own goals and dreams, then stay right here as I address those topics that may have been puzzling you up to this point. Topics like:
How can I make my thoughts become things? Hint, you're doing it right now!
How can I change those limiting beliefs that have held me back for so long? Visualize!
What about the emotions that limit or control me? They are the reactions to life events.
How can I take the action to make things happen? Hint, you just might be doing that right now too!
What is faith and the meaning of life? Ahhh, the big questions!
My goal is to take you through the Infinite Possibilities Coursework by giving some brief talks about each chapter, but if you want more in depth information or to interact with other people please check my education page for dates, times and locations of Introductory talks and Group meetings.
Next: Thoughts Become Things
So are your Chakras in alignment?
Root - basics - food, home, earth, grounding, stability, safety and security
Sacral - ability to keep a spouse or relationship with another, nurturing, change, passion - procreation
Stomach - Solar Plexus - metabolism, self-esteem, digesting, processing - processing things coming into your life and the communication with self and others
Heart - relationships, love, compassion, caring, content
Throat - communication, listening
Third Eye - Intellect, sight, imagination, visualizing
Crown - a relationship with a higher power, clear thoughts, open-minded
Think about what is going on in your life right now, right this minute. Not went on yesterday or what you think might happen tomorrow - think about what is going on right now. Because that is also what is going on with your chakras. How you feel about each of the items listed for each chakra can tell you about the chakra itself. If there is not balance in any of the areas then that chakra may be the one that needs your attention.
Do a quick self-balancing exercise.
Think about your root chakra and imagine a time when you felt the most secure and grounded. Imagine an amazing family dinner in the comfort and warmth of your family or a time when you were in nature and surrounded by Mother Earth.
Think about your sacral chakra and imagine the best sex you have ever had. Remember the passion and the relationship that made it possible.
Think about your stomach chakra and imagine the best meal that you ever ate or if your job involves the processing of information the most difficult project that you were able to process easily and gain recognition for.
Think about your heart chakra and imagine a loving relationship that you have had with a significant other, a parent or child or even a favorite pet.
Think about your throat chakra and imagine the best conversation that you had with someone where you were able to communicate your thoughts and feelings openly and honestly.
Think about your third eye chakra and use it to imagine and visualize the ability that you have to be intuitive in your daily life and dealings with others.
Think about your crown chakra and think about your spirituality and your relationship with a higher power and how you can connect with the infinite-ness at any time.
Last week I posted this on my Facebook page with the promise that I would talk more about Chakras this week. Well here I am. Each of the symbols in this previous post represent the 7 major Chakras in the body. So what are chakras?
Essentially they are energy centers in the body. They form spinning wheels, or vortexes, that act as conductors to filter energy from the heavens and the earth so that they can combine and act upon the physical body. They are associated with many types of healing therapies and most often with ancient Eastern healing traditions. The ancient Eqyptians would have associated them with aromatherapy and colors, while the early Jewish tradition made this a part of their mystical Kabbalah. Indian Ayurveda uses them as part of their traditions as does the current practice of Japanese Reiki.
I was introduced to the chakras as part of my training in energy balancing through my massage therapy studies. Most people are introduced to them through the Hindu symbols at the top of this page and the associated colors and their placement on the body. They directly mimic the colors of the rainbow in their order as they ascend from the base of the spine to the top of the head: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet, however some teachings use white for the 7th, or crown chakra.
There are associated emotions, gemstones, colors, musical notes and endocrine glands with each of the chakras also. I will add a post about each of these seven major chakras over the next few weeks.
Let's begin with the chakras themselves; their names, locations and colors.
Root - base of the spine - red
Sacral - pelvis - orange
Solar Plexus/Stomach - abdomen - yellow
Heart - heart/mid-chest - green (sometimes pink)
Throat - center of the neck - blue
Third Eye/Brow - center of the forehead - indigo/purple
Crown/Top of Head - center top of head - violet/white
Whether you believe you can do a thing or not, you are right. - Henry Ford
Day by day in every way I am becoming more successful. - Napoleon Hill
Thinking by Walter D. Wintle
If you think you are beaten, you are
If you think you dare not, you don't,
If you like to win, but you think you can't
It is almost certain you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow's will
It's all in the state of mind.
If you think you are outclassed, you are
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.
Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man WHO THINKS HE CAN!
Chapter 2: Self-Confidence - Skepticism, unbelief and doubt have no place in the mind of the person who wants to reach his definite purpose. Thought, according to Hill, is the most highly organized form of energy know to man. Thorough goal setting, affirmations, persistence and self-confidence in what you are trying to achieve a person can achieve anything.
But first you must let go of fear, that nagging voice in your head that says you can't, you shouldn't or you don't have the ability. "If you listen to your fears, you will die never knowing what a great person you might have been." - Robert Schuller
Many people live in constant fear of making a mistake so they never take the first step toward making their dreams and aspirations a reality. Start looking at things a different way. Instead of being fearful of what might happen, especially in the negative, start looking at positive outcome may happen instead. By being positive about the things you are doing, you set in motion the positive outcome of your actions. How many times have you heard stories of people born into a bad situation who through positive thoughts and actions were able to pull themselves out of that situation? Self-confidence develops as we use it to move forward with our lives. And, yes there may be setbacks. Edison did not invent the light bulb on his very first try and Milton Hershey failed many times until he succeeded with the now world-famous chocolate bar. Self-confidence in reaching the end result and perseverance to keep trying made them the successful men that they were.
Self confidence is a way of believing in yourself. You will, of course, need the cooperation of others has you work toward your definite purpose and the best way to do that is to surround yourself with those people who also believe in you. Surround yourself with those people who will boost you up with have setbacks and will offer encouragement when you need it. Do not surround yourself with "negative Nellies", those people who will discourage you from your chosen path or look down upon whatever it is you have set out to do.
Napoleon Hill set out the following Self-Confidence Formula, which I have condensed for this post.
Make a copy of these items, if you like and study them and commit to them. The positive habits that you form now and do repeatedly will be very powerful in developing your self-confidence. Anything you have learned to do up to this point has been by repeated practice until it became a habit. The use of my keyboard to type is through a "learned" habit of knowing where the specific keys that represent the letters are located. Over time then I have developed the ability to type words without the need to think about where they are. You can do the same thing with anything you set your mind to do, including the habit of self-confidence in your ability.
People who are successful are so because they believed in themselves, created a definite purpose as to where they wanted to be and then backed that up with a definite plan on how to get there. As Hill says, your only limitation, within reason, is the one that you set up in your own mind.
Take the time to perform a self-analysis - take an inventory of your current abilities to see if you have what you need to achieve you goals. And then when you do set out on your journey to that purpose make sure that you finish all that you set out to do each step of the way.
AND, be fearless as you go, having the self-confidence in your abilities that you have acquired as you proceed toward your definite purpose.
Napoleon Hill (October 26, 1883 – November 8, 1970) was an American author in the area of the new thought movement who was one of the earliest producers of the modern genre of personal-success literature. He is widely considered to be one of the great writers on success. His most famous work, Think and Grow Rich (1937), is one of the best-selling books of all time (at the time of Hill's death in 1970, Think and Grow Rich had sold 20 million copies). He became an advisor to President Franklin D. Roosevelt from 1933 to 1936. "What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve" is one of Hill's hallmark expressions. How achievement actually occurs, and a formula for it that puts success in reach of the average person, were the focal points of Hill's books.
According to his official biography, Napoleon Hill was born in a one-room cabin near the Appalachian town of Pound, in Southwest Virginia. Hill's mother died when he was nine years old, and his father remarried two years later. At the age of 13, Hill began writing as a "mountain reporter" for small-town newspapers in the area of Wise County, Virginia. He later used his earnings as a reporter to enter law school, but soon he had to withdraw for financial reasons.
Hill considered the turning point in his life to have occurred in the year 1908 with his assignment, as part of a series of articles about famous and successful men, to interview the industrialist and philanthropist Andrew Carnegie. At the time, Carnegie was one of the most powerful men in the world. Hill discovered that Carnegie believed that the process of success could be outlined in a simple formula that anyone would be able to understand and achieve. Impressed with Hill, Carnegie asked him if he was up to the task of putting together this information, to interview or analyze over 500 successful men and women, many of themmillionaires, in order to discover and publish this formula for success.
As part of his research, Hill claimed to have interviewed many of the most successful people of the time in the United States. In the acknowledgments section of his 1928 multi-volume work The Law of Success, Hill listed 45 of those studied by him during the previous twenty years, "the majority of these men at close range, in person", like the three to whom the book set was dedicated, Andrew Carnegie, Henry Ford, and Edwin C. Barnes, an associate of Thomas Edison.
(Previous information taken directly from Wikipedia.)
So I am attempting to let you know my thoughts about The Law of Success. chapter by chapter.
Chapter 1: A Definite Purpose - This is the major goal that you have set for yourself as to where you want to be in life. Be careful what you pick as your Definite Purpose since once you select it, and start concentrating on it, your subconscious mind will do everything that it can to get your body into physical action to get you toward that purpose. This is an established principle of psychology. "Any definite purpose that is deliberately fixed in the mind and held there, with the determination to realize it, finally saturates the entire subconscious mind until it automatically influences the physical action of the body toward the attainment of that purpose."
Hill uses the concept of Auto Suggestion to make this happen. This is the process of using affirmations and setting goals to get to the object of your main desire. You need to see the end result, feel the end result, touch the end result in order to get the fulfillment of that end result firmly planted in your brain using conscious thought. Conscious thought will, with repetition, eventually become a part of your subconscious mind. Once it is in the subconscious mind, the emotion of that fulfillment will provide the stimulus the body needs to spring into action and the action will, with time, bring you to your Definite Purpose.
AND your definite purpose is limited only by your imagination!
BUT you have to be very specific about your Definite Purpose. What is YOUR goal? If you can see it, feel it, touch it, etc. with every emotion that goes with it then be very specific in defining it. Now, if your goal is to find a mate, I don't think that you should pick,for example, a specific movie star, celebrity or the boy/girl that sits next to you in Math class. What I do suggest that you do is pick the qualities of the person that you see as your perfect mate and start concentrating on finding that person, then I believe that if you set that as you goal, then you will attract that person to you. Through the desire to have that in your life.
Your desire to have something is what leads you to set that Definite Purpose. The actions that you take as part of the emotion attached to that Definite Purpose are then what make you achieve the result.
Begin today by creating your Definite Purpose. Then create the affirmations that you will repeat or read every day to set that goal into your subconscious. Get into the habit of doing the things to make your Definite Purpose a reality. Develop the ability to direct your thoughts and efforts in an organized manner. Every thing you do every day should be directed toward your Definite Purpose.
A caveat (warning) - your Definite Purpose should be within your scope of expertise! If it is outside your scope of expertise then you need to gain the expertise you need to get to that Definite Purpose.
Paula J. Kaprocki, LMT, BS, CPC
Life Coach, Massage Therapist, Infinite Possibilities Trainer, Author